Get Unruly
Get Unruly is a podcast for anyone who feels the quiet pull of more — and is ready to stop shrinking to fit.
Hosted by global keynote speaker, strategist, lawyer, and competitive Latin dancer Kim Bolourtchi, each episode breaks open the invisible rules we’ve been taught to follow — in life, work, identity, and ambition.
This is where raw truth meets radical clarity.
Where we unlearn what’s no longer serving us — and reclaim what is.
Because playing by the rules won’t build the life you actually want.
But breaking the right ones?
That changes everything.
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Get Unruly
What if they Booked the Wrong Person?
I’ll never forget standing backstage before one of my first big keynotes — mic on, ready to go, heart racing — when a single thought hit me:
“What if they booked the wrong person?”
That moment cracked something open.
Because up until then, I had been obsessed with proving I belonged.
I didn’t fully believe it — but I wanted everyone else to.
This episode is about what happened next — the moment fear made me let go of performance and choose truth instead.
It wasn’t by doing it right.
It was by doing it real.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re one mistake away from being found out, this one’s for you.
It’s about what happens when you stop performing, start believing, and finally decide to be fully you.
🔥 The life you want isn’t waiting for more effort.
It’s waiting for more belief — and the courage to live like you already have it.
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This is Kim Bolourtchi, and you're listening to get unruly, short, honest conversations about what it really takes to live and lead with clarity, courage and your whole self. This week, I want to start with something a little brutally honest. You're not just being held back by a lack of effort or talent or access, you're being held back, oftentimes, most of all, by a lack of belief in yourself. And I don't just mean the surface level kind. I mean the deep, Quiet Kind, the belief that shapes how visible you'll let yourself be. Most of us think our struggle is about doing more, working harder, learning faster, pushing further. But underneath all that effort sits one quiet question we rarely admit. Do I really believe it's possible for me? And this is the question that keeps people really stuck. It's what makes you over prepare, edit yourself smaller and keep waiting to be ready. I'll never forget one of my first big keynotes. It was a huge stage, the kind of opportunity I had dreamed about. I was standing backstage, Mike clipped on, heart pounding, ready to go. And then my mind started whispering, what if I'm not the Kim they thought they booked like actually, I had that thought. And then it spiraled, what if they really meant another Kim? What if they mixed up names and I'm about to walk out there and disappoint all these people, what if they're expecting someone more accomplished, more famous, more serious, like, what if this whole thing is a mistake? I know it sounds absurd, but in that moment, it felt completely rational, like I was protecting everyone from discovering that I didn't really belong there, and the truth is, up until that keynote, I had been obsessed with proving I belonged. I actually didn't believe it, clearly not deep down, but I desperately wanted everyone else to something changed that day. Maybe it was the fear, maybe it was the exhaustion from trying to hold it all together. Maybe it was the thought that they booked the wrong person. I don't know, and I figured, well, fuck it. I'm just gonna be me. I don't even exactly know what shifted, but that was the first time I stopped performing and decided to just be completely, genuinely, wholly me. I took a breath, looked out at the crowd and let them see me, not the polished expert, not the brand, just me. And that moment changed everything. It was like the air shifted. The audience leaned in and that that talk was the beginning of when I started to actually believe it wasn't by doing it right? It wasn't by following a perfect framework or memorizing the speech. I didn't do any of it actually. It was by doing it real, and that is what we're all missing so much of the time we chase the version of ourselves we think people will respect when what they're really waiting for is the version that's the truest version of you. Belief is the architecture of absolutely everything, if it's built on not enough. You can decorate the structure all you want, and it will still collapse under its own weight. Seeing the belief that is holding you back, the belief of I'm not ready, I'm not enough, I don't know enough, I'm not good enough. That belief is critical to being able to challenge it, but acting in spite of it, that is where your real power comes from. And listen, it's not about being fearless. It's just about letting truth matter more than the fear. You probably have. Your own version of that voice, and maybe it says something like success has to be hard. Maybe it's I can't outshine people I love. Maybe it's if I slow down, I'll lose my edge. Maybe it's I have to be better and better and better to be worthy of being seen. Whatever it whispers it is running the show, until you decide otherwise, and no matter how hard you work for the thing you say you want, until you deal with that belief, it's going to be very, very difficult for you to achieve and accomplish your heart's biggest desires. So this week, I want you to notice it. Catch the moments you. Start rehearsing, hiding, apologizing, and instead of listening to the voice, pay attention to what it's telling you and then act anyway, because every single time you act in defiance of disbelief, you build new evidence that freedom is possible. The life you want isn't waiting for more effort. It does not come from working harder. It's waiting for more belief and the courage to live like you've got it, the version of you underneath all that proving is just waiting for more belief. Thanks for listening to get unruly. If this hit you, tell me about it. I would love to know share it with someone who's working hard but still questioning if they deserve what's next. You can always find me at Kim bolourchi.com and we've got some really cool things coming up. Check out the show notes until next time, friends stay unruly. You.